Not too long ago when my first daughter was born, at the age of 17, I was totally clueless as to what I wanted to do in life and with my child. I loved her but I didn’t know anything about anything and didn’t find the need to educate myself. I did exactly what i thought i was supposed to do which was feed her, diaper her, wash her, love her, and be the best mom that i could be.
I used the cry it out method. I believed in disciplining her a certain way.
To be completely honest, I don’t feel that I accomplished anything with that version of parenting.
At this current point in time I am turning 21 and also in my 5th month of my second pregnancy. (Baby seems to be active today 🙂 )
I’ve done a lot of research about being a more natural and nurturing mom and at first I had only decided to breastfeed this baby. As time passed and as I did more research I feel like I struck gold. That gold would be the idea of a completely different lifestyle.
I decided I want to do extended breastfeeding and cloth diaper this baby. I also, along with my boyfriend, decided not to have the baby circumcised if it’s a boy. (I find out on Valentine’s Day by the way.
I was and am still so excited about this. I then did even more research about the “crunchy” lifestyle. Now let me pause for a second and say that I have always loved growing my own food and I have a love for nature and consider myself spiritual but there is a difference between that and everything I was discovering.
Anyways back to what I was saying before, I then decided I wanted to not just change how I take care of my children but my entire view and lifestyle. I was amazed that this felt so good and fulfilling.
As I posted before I am going through a separation and divorce from my first husband and am trying to progress from that. I must say that I feel as if this life decision is helping me not be such an angry and detached person. I feel as if I won’t be the same person I was after my daughter was born which was not a proud point in my life.
I feel as if this is a turning point in my life though I definitely didn’t expect it to come in this form.
Now all of that being said I decided to tell my family….it didn’t go as I had hoped but much like i had expected.
My mother and my best friend are both nurses so they completely rejected the idea that i didn’t want my son circumcised.
OK so first of all when did cutting part of my son’s penis off become the lesser of two HUGE decisions? It was my understanding that a child has to either live with one or the other and that the parent is always the one who decides. So if one parent makes the lifelong decision of cutting off part of their son’s body why is it wrong that i make an equally important decision of letting his penis stay the way my body created it to be.
I got the it’s medically better for this and that crap. I kind of felt insulted but then quickly realized what their problems were…They were medical professionals who weren’t in my position and experiencing what I was so I didn’t get very upset.
However, I do long for someone to get how i could go from one extreme to another. I’m not sure most people react this way to a divorce and a new life
Is it common to make this kind of turn? Wait that must be what this is…my new life. My new single, college student, mommy of two life. HAHA